Here is a question I received several times: can a Christian have two women at a time under a roof? Can a Christian take a second wife? How many women does a man have the right to take?
Basically, what does the Bible say about the polygamy ?
Some people rely on the model of the Old Testament men of God to say that God approves of polygamy and that man has the right to take as many women as he wishes.
But the Word of God shows us that the perfect will of God is quite different and we will see some biblical passages that confirm it.
The LORD God said, It is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a help like him. [...] That's why the man will leave his father and his mother, and will focus on her woman, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2: 18, 24)
And he said, Have you not read that the creator at first made the man and the woman, and said, Wherefore the man shall leave his father and his mother, and her wife, and both will become one flesh ? So they are no longer two, but they are one flesh. Let no man separate what God has joined. (Matthew 19: 4-6)
However, to avoid fornication, everyone has her woman, and that every woman has his husband. (1 Corinthians 7: 2)
For the husband is the head of the woman, as Christ is the head of the church, which is his body, and of which he is the Savior. (Ephesians 5:23)
In the beginning, when God establishes all things, He creates a man, and a woman (Genesis 2: 18,24). God created only one woman to Adam and thus establishes thedivine orderthat is, the order in which the marriage must work: the monogamy. God's marriage is between a man and "a woman"; and not between a man and "women" ...
They are one flesh => God has not provided room for a third person in the intimate union that exists between each man and his wife.
The first time a case of polygamy is mentioned in the Bible, it is in the lineage of Cain, six generations after Adam (Genesis 4: 6). Lemec had two wives. Polygamy is then generalized among the men of the Old Testament. And that brings a lot of problems. Here are some biblical examples:
- Jacob and his two wives, Leah and Rachel (Genesis 30)
- Esau and his two Hittite women, Judith and Basmath, who were a bitterness to the heart of Isaac and Rebecca. (Genesis 26: 33-34)
- Elkana and her two wives, Anne and Peninna. (1 Samuel 1: 1-5)
- Solomon with his 700 women and 300 concubines who caused his fall. (1 Kings 11: 3)
Although men have moved away from the original plan, the Lord Jesus recalls the divine order by restating the pattern given by God in the beginning. (Matthew 19: 4-6)
Moreover, when the Apostle Paul speaks of marriage, he compares the relationship between man and his wife, with the relationship that exists in Christ and the Church that is His body, encouraging men to follow the pattern of Christ. (Ephesians 5: 22-33) Christ does not have many bodies. He has only one body, one church. Likewise, men under the new covenant are called to have one wife.
God's plan is therefore a man, a woman, for life. (Genesis 2, Matthew 19)
No place in the Bible describes the benefits of polygamy. But wherever we talk about it, there are problems (conflicts, envy, hatred, jealousy ...), be it between women or between children. Polygamy is a mess.
Brother, do not be seduced.Polygamy is not part of God's plan of happiness for you. This is not the pattern that Christ has given you. Having two women will not make you happier. Grow your garden and it will give you the fruits you need.
Love, cherish, nurture and value the woman you have and you will be a fulfilled man.
God bless you !