I share today a great testimonial that I found on EveryStudent.com and translated for you. A young man gives you his very honest advice on dating. Here is what he discovered about intimate relationships and dating ... (I share the first 3 points of this edifying testimony).
There's a saying that says, "The best plan is to take advantage of the stupidity of others." That's the bottom line of this article. I want to share with you a number of things I learned - the hard way - about women and relationships. Specifically, I noted ten reasons why I decided to wait until marriage to have sex.
# 1: I know now that sex is not quite what we are shown in movies.
In my first years of college, I had a sexual experience that I call a "hangover of love". After being with a girl the next morning, I still felt a void. This is something you will never see on TV or in movies, but that happens often. There was a void, even regret, after.
The "hangover of love" was a strange phenomenon for me. Mainly because at that time, sex was my "god". As a man, I thought about it morning, noon and night. You would imagine that sex was completely satisfying to me - the crowning of worship to my "god". And yet, there was often a lack of satisfaction afterwards.
Was this also your experience? Have you ever had a "hangover of love"? If so, stop and think about it, "Why is this the case, why does sex, which is so important to me, leave me with a feeling of emptiness?"
I remember being confused by this void. At that moment, I just concluded: "I just need more [sex], that's all." But the vacuum continued. So I have finally come to the conclusion that sex before marriage is not everything we think it is. This is not what films present to us, otherwise it would be quite satisfying. There would not be all this "void".
# 2: I now want to be more honorable towards women.
I realized that women do not often understand everything that happens when it comes to sex. In other words, their point of view is very different from that of men. Often a young woman will justify sex before marriage by saying, "But I love him"Even though she does not really want to go all the way, because" often, "young women use sex to get love, men use love to get sex. "
Here's how it works: the young woman imagines herself marrying the guy someday; the guy imagines everything he wants to do with her and that he will be able to tell his friends about it. And while something in her tells him that's what to do, something inside the guy tells him the exact opposite, but he continues. Why? For the physical pleasure, no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: it will give him the impression of being a man. But there is a great irony in this, because what is there really "man" to play a woman?
I also discovered that when you honor a woman, you honor yourself. Why? Because one day you will regret, and the regret will last much longer than the pleasure. In the movie Rob Roy, the main character says: "Honor is a gift that a man gives himself."When you honor a woman by doing what you know to be right in your heart (that is, what is in her interest), you honor yourself and make sure you never have any regrets with which you are going to have live a long time.
# 3: This is someone else's wife.
Here's what I mean: most of the girls I slept with are now married to other men. When I put myself in the shoes of these men, I regret bitterly what I did. I wish I had never done it. In fact, I almost want to punch myself because of that.
And it goes without saying that when I get married, I would not like the idea that someone else slept with my wife. And you? Do you like the idea of someone else sleeping with your wife? If you have a friend now and you feel like that, imagine how you will feel when it comes to your wife.
Let's go a little further. This girl is someone's daughter. And if she was my daughter? Or if she was my sister? Would I like a man like me to take advantage of her? I now see women in a different perspective. They are someone else's future wife, someone else's daughter or sister, and so on.
To be continued…
I really pray that this testimony helps to raise the awareness of young women and our teenagers: men do not think like you and by claiming you intimate relationships, do not necessarily imagine living with you all their lives. Keep your purity for the one who will honor you and go to the end of his commitment to save you from unnecessary injuries and suffering and regrets. Keep up until marriage!
I also pray that it raises the awareness of men: to honor a woman is to honor oneself at heart. And this woman whom you are aiming for your selfish pleasure is someone else's wife ... Think about it!