In her book Suffrances at school , (to be published on September 28 at Albin Michel) Nicole Catheline explains, age by age, what can be a source of difficulties for students. For this child psychiatrist, who created a center in Poitiers specialized in the accompaniment of out-of-school children, identifying these issues can help parents better support them.
Small children can suffer from too much unavailability of adults in busy classes. And especially noise and space too big. At this age, they need calm and close and caring adults. Surrounding them further helps to reassure them.
By age 6-8, they begin to feel the expectations of adults about their ability to learn and may lose confidence in themselves. Some say already "I'm stupid, I can not do it". The fear of being judged pursues them for a long time. They need learning conditions that are sensitive to their needs. Some love the challenge and the competition. Others need to be reassured and especially not compared.
At around 8-11, there may be relationship-related suffering. The more children get away from their family, the more they need to be reassured by friends. At this age, they still have several groups of buddies quite moving (unlike the clans in adolescence). It is the moment when they begin to oppose the adults, and where it is necessary to make allegiance to the group (especially not to report, under penalty of exclusion).
The challenge for teens is above all to confront a new environment and to be up to it. Puberty shakes them up a lot. The girls are more precocious (they have breasts from the fifth grade, their rules in the fifth), the boys become pubescent around 13 years (they have their first ejaculations towards the end of the fourth). All of this creates very excited and exciting classes, especially for boys. Moreover, the group, at this age, takes even more the relay. He is authoritative. If we are excluded, it's even worse. Many teens are looking for friends who are even worse off to reassure themselves. The phenomena of harassment multiply.
At that time, learning is second only to teenagers' concerns, even though parents are particularly nervous before the big end-of-age trio. Adults are obsessed with the future, when the horizon of college students stops at the weekend. They are able to say aberrant things ("you will be scavenger") for the remotiver, which is totally counterproductive. As a result, there are many conflicts around schooling.Especially since it is in college that reveal "learning holes" (these deficiencies that the school has allowed to accumulate in primary). And that the growth of the brain creates in the teen a bad emotional adjustment and significant mood disorders. The misunderstanding between them makes them all suffer a lot.