Do I have to tell my kids that I went to jail?

Do I have to tell my kids that I went to jail?

At the age of 18, I was sentenced to two years in prison for burglary. I wonder if I have to tell my children (13 and 10 years old). I'm afraid to disturb them, but I'm afraid they'll learn it from someone else too. What to do? Christian

Claude Halmos

Psychoanalyst

answers

Why should you hide it from them? To have been in prison at 18 (or later) is not shameful. This does not mean that one was more silly or wicked than others. It simply means that we missed some benchmarks. Because the adults who should have given them could not do it. And there is even less to hide this imprisonment that you have escaped. And, what is more, "hands down", since your life is a success today.

Your children can only be proud of you. Speak to them without fear. After having of course discussed with their mother, because it is important that they feel you, in this case, solidarity. And listen to what they have to say to you, their reactions can be, at first, surprising.

But the balance sheet can only be positive in the long run. To hear from your mouth the truth (which they know already, unconsciously) will prove to them that you trust them and take them seriously.

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