My 13-year-old niece is not doing well. What to do?
My niece 13 years often lies, she invented a boyfriend, makes believe that her father hit her ... She also pee in her panties, does not change and wont either when she goes in the toilet. She was separated from her parents when she was 2 years old. Then they got together again later. She has two sisters and a younger brother, whom she has to take care of, when her mother has something to do. Is his behavior related to his story? Lassegro, age 30
It is common for a teenager to start telling "stories" including his girlfriends. Your niece seems to be building a life story that is more like what she would like to live than what she lives. In this way, she embellishes her everyday life.
On the other hand, the "pee in the panties", its lack of cleanliness are to be taken seriously Enuresis can have different causes. The problem is surely both simple and complex and may require some consultation with a psychologist. However you can surely help him by focusing on the odorous effects that this inevitably causes, and the impact on his relationship of cronyism that may result.
The disturbances you describe must be able to change when it becomes aware that it can not be "confused" with the little ones. The fact that she assumes a surrogate mothering role, sometimes against her will, does not allow her to say in another way the injury that comes with the birth of younger and the feeling of "losing" parental love. The accusation against the father is related to this feeling of anxiety related to the parental history of separation. She expresses the ambivalence of her desire both to find the father "lost" but also the anger of his return, which has generated in the family the birth of other children.